Answer to loneliness!

In the growing world of nuclear family and 2 parents single child and even single parent single child, it is only quite common that one often feels lonely. Loneliness brings with itself all sorts of negative effects which in extreme cases lead to depression and even suicidal tendencies. But I would like to draw a striking difference between being alone and feeling lonely. One can be in the midst of a crowd and still feel lonely. On the other hand there are several people who personally prefer to be alone and not experience an iota of loneliness. Then what really is the reason for the loneliness? 

It is lack of awareness of ones own self. If anybody is feeling lonely it is because the person has always looked at oneself through the eyes of others and never really looked at oneself deep within experiencially being aware. They want other people to relate to and never got a chance to relate to oneself. What is our relationship to our own self? Have we ever wondered about that? Loneliness smply means craving for attention from others. We don't know who we are, and what we are capable of. We don't know what our life is all about and the purpose of being on this planet. The moment one starts enquiring about these precious questions, there is no time for being lonely. This life is a precious gift from nature. But it is so short that it is almost insignificant in contrast to the duration of the existence of this planet and the whole creation.In such a short span of life time on this planet it is such a waste of time to crave for attention from others. I am not saying not to relate to people at all. That is an other extreme viewpoint which leads to insensitivity and once again leads to depression. What I am saying is that there have been many people in our life who have given love starting from the mother, siblings, friends, etc. Let us feel grateful for their love. Have we ever taken some time to feel grateful and expressed the same to them? It is extremely rewarding just to feel the gratitude. It really does not matter to whom you are grateful for. You could be grateful for the comforts you have been provided with, nice people you have met, being able to breathe, to the life itself!!! But the very feeling of gratitude kindles a certain quality in us which is invaluable. Being grateful every moment makes you so alive and brings such an ecstasy in your life that anybody around gets attracted towards you and start celebrating just being around you. There is no question about being lonely. On the other hand you start relieving people of their loneliness and kindling that same fire of love and gratitude.

One more phenomenon is that when you meditate and go deep within, you first realize that you are nobody. You are not the body, you are not the breath, mind, intellect, memory nor ego and start realizing you are made of just love and subsequently you also realize that since everything in this creation is made of love you are also all that, you are everything that is around. The whole journey is about moving from somebody to nobody to everybody. When you realize you are no different from anybody else and you are in the company of everything around including your own body, its cells, the molecules and atoms, how can loneliness set in? You can be sitting all alone and still experience the liveliness of the creation. This can also only happen when the prana (subtle life force) level is high which is why every sipiritusl master emphasizes on practicing Pranayama (breathing techniques) that totally elevates the level of prana. I have definitely known this through experience and vouch for it. I have learnt the Sudharshan Kriya from His Holiness Sri Sri Ravi Shankar and it has brought me such a clear awareness and enabled me to live life to its fullest potential. I would definitely recommend this to all. I have personally facilitated people to do this practice and have seen several who were in depression and loneliness totally coming out of it and fully living their life with such a great happiness!